Two weeks ago I celebrated my 25th birthday. This birthday in particular felt like a significant one to me and has caused me to do a lot of reflecting on what I’ve learned in my 25 years of life. So here are my 25 life lessons in no particular order:
- Forgiveness is essential, but forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting.
People are going to hurt you, that’s a guarantee but holding grudges or bitterness in your heart won’t hurt them, it will only hurt you. Learn to forgive, know when to extend second chances, and learn from your hurt.
- Sleep Well!
In my teenage years and early college years sleep was never a priority for me. I spent a lot of late nights and early mornings trying to get ahead on different things. After all that, I learned it was only putting my body behind and how I felt in the morning was never worth it. Invest in a good mattress, pillow and set yourself a bedtime.
- Always wash off your makeup at the end of the day.
Trust me your face will thank you!
- Appreciate the people who disagree with you
I’ve met all kinds of people in life and sometimes you can really learn the most from people who disagree with you. This world is not made to be black and white, learn to appreciate some color and listen to others opinions.
- Comparison is the thief of joy – Theodore Roosevelt
- Love yourself.
This doesn’t mean become self-centered or selfish but don’t be too hard on yourself, be kind to yourself and extend yourself a little grace.
- Traveling is the best!
Take every opportunity you have to travel and see something new, whether it hoping on a plane to explore a new country or wandering the downtown of a nearby city the world is an extraordinary place.Traveling broadens your mindset, and fills your life with beautiful moments.
- Spend time with and appreciate your parents while you have them.
This is a lesson I learned while I was still quite young. Losing my mom at a young age I was taught that our parents are our biggest supporters and the people who will always be looking out for your best interest. My dad has been one of my biggest supporters and best friends.
- Don’t make decisions when you’re sad or angry.
We can all do stupid things in the heat of the moment but this is not the best environment to be making decisions in. Give yourself time to think and calm down before you decide to do anything.
- Your best accessory is a smile
Whether you’re dressed up for a night on the town or relaxing at home in sweatpants, you’re always look your best with a smile on.
- Document your life
Document your life in photos and in journals. Life is full of precious moments that need to be remembered and shared.
- Be kind
“People will forget what you said, they will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel” – Maya Angelou
- Quality over quantity
I’ve come to find this is especially true when it comes to friendships. It’s better to have a few close friends than a lot of shallow friends.
- Instead of saying I don’t know, say I can find out
When in doubt, google it!
- Keep reading
Learning never stops! I think reading a good book is one life’s simplest pleasures. Reading is a great habit to continue throughout life.
- Don’t rush your life, enjoy the phase you are in
Quite often when I was younger I found myself just wishing I was at the next phase in life, I wasted so much time doing that.
- Don’t waste time on people who don’t make time for you.
Value yourself and don’t waste your time trying to make other people like you.
- Trust takes a lot of work to build, and a little carelessness to destroy.
Trust is one of the hardest things for me, and this something I’ve found to be true time after time.
- Take care of your body, you only get one
Eat healthy, floss everyday, exercise, and wear sunscreen.
- Develop your own faith
Your faith makes you into the person you are and it guides you through the toughest seasons of life. Make sure it’s truly what you believe and hold true to it.
21. Listen far more than you speak
Twenty-five is not that old listen to others around you who might know a thing or two.
22. Hurting people hurt people
You never know what is going on inside people’s heads or hearts. Sometimes those who have hurt you, have also been deeply wounded themselves.
23. We all have different love languages, we all give and receive love in different ways.
Learn your own language, and the language of your significant other, family and close friends.
24. Lean not on your own understanding
Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” I’ve come to learn that it’s better to lean on God because he has a better more full understanding than my own.If I lean on my own understanding I often fall hard.
Life can be hard but it can also be wonderful and amazing and beautiful. Learn to laugh and appreciate the small things in life
Thanks for reading my Life lessons at 25. What lessons have you learned at this stage of your life? Feel free to share them in the comment section.